Y’all, today was the last day of school for my kiddos, and I don’t know whether to laugh or cry.
I know that moms around the world can totally relate. :) I’m looking forward to the more laid back days of summer, but man, it gets a little crazy when we are all home together every day. And then you add Sania Louise to the mix, well let’s just say that things could get pretty interesting this summer!
Adam and Eli will be going to some basketball camps, Jonathan will be working some, and Luke will be at the golf course a lot. I am going to try and keep Sania Louise on a consistent schedule because she does better that way. She also needs to continue doing school work each day to try and catch up some more.
Speaking of school work, y’all, I am so proud of my sweet girl! Today, her teacher gave out “classroom awards” to everyone. She gave them awards that fit a particular personality trait or special memory for each child.
And guess what my daughter got?!
“MOST LIKELY TO CHEER YOU UP WHEN YOU ARE SAD”
Isn’t that the best?! And it is SO true.
She just has a joy about her that makes you smile. And with all that our sweet little girl has been through in her life, it truly amazes me. I know without a doubt that her boarding school teachers in Latvia would be shocked to see that she got this award! haha!
(Hannah and Sania)
But that award is proof to me that God’s love can overcome all things. It is also evidence of what a loving school environment can do for a child. An environment where each child is loved and accepted as they are.
(Sania and Addyson)
Sania’s classmates have shown her that kind of love this year. And her teacher, Ms. Jones, well…she is priceless! She showered Sania with patience and love and gave her the confidence she needed to feel successful at school.
Sania also had three amazing teachers in the resource room that worked with her and loved on her each day. She absolutely loved going to school every single day! I am so very grateful for everything that her teachers have done for her the past few months!
And I have to say something about this little guy as well…
I haven’t said much about my sweet Eli and how this adoption has affected him, but to be honest, it has been the hardest on his little heart.
He fiercely loves and adores his new sister, but at the same time, he has had to experience the most changes in his life this past year.
He is no longer the “youngest” in the family. (Although Sania is technically two days older than him, she is definitely younger than him emotionally and behaviorally.) She has commanded a lot of our time and attention, sometimes leaving Eli feeling a little lost.
Even though her behavior has improved tremendously since she has been home, she can still be very difficult and defiant at home, and most of the time, she aims her anger at Eli. Being only 10 years old now, he doesn’t always handle her behavior in the best way (like my older boys do.) We talk with him all the time of how to handle Sania’s behavior, but truthfully, it’s a lot to ask.
I’ve seen some changes in Eli’s behavior, mostly attention-seeking, but I am amazed at how he well he is handling things. I know it has not been easy. Cy and I try so hard every day to give all of our children the time and attention they need, but as most of you know, it’s not an easy job. We pray every day that God would give us wisdom and show us how to love our children well.
Adoption is a beautiful mess. It brings so much joy, but there is usually quite a bit of heartache involved as well. My boys have had to make a TON of sacrifices to bring Sania into our family, and to some, they may think we have done them a disservice.
But I couldn’t disagree more.
The main lesson that we have all learned this past year through our adoption of Sania is “life is not about us.” Life is not about me. It’s not about Cy. It’s not about our boys. Life is about OTHERS. (and Jesus, of course!)
That is the greatest lesson we could ever learn. Our world would be a whole heck of a lot better if we thought more of others and less of ourselves. (Am I getting too preachy?) :)
I’ve seen my boys love on her and sacrifice for her like none other. And I marvel at them every day. They are going to be amazing husbands and fathers. Nothing can take away the character that they have built and the lessons they have learned through the sacrifices they have made for their sister.
In his 10 year old honesty, Eli told me the other day that he missed how our family was before Sania came along. But he knew for it to be like it was, it would mean Sania would be back in Latvia. He said, “Mom, when I think of Sania being in Latvia all alone and with no family, I just can’t take it. And even though it is really hard sometimes with her here, I would never want her to be alone again. I’d rather be sad sometimes, than her be alone.”
Well said, my little man. And to you, Mommy is giving the “Most Likely to Change the World” award!
TO GOD BE THE GLORY!
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